Managing Anger

Tension, irritability, angry outbursts, feeling out of control?

If you need help with anger management, call Sandy at 480-351-0306 to set up an appointment.

If You Love Me, Then Why Do We Fight?

Guest Writer, Dr. Jessica Dorland, MS MEd LAC DBH


“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything!”

“Don’t talk back to me!”

“Don’t raise your voice to me!”

There is a belief that you shouldn’t feel angry with someone you love, but it is irrational to expect two unique human beings (no matter how much they love each other) not to have some conflict. As kids we are all taught that expressing anger is wrong, we are taught that angry feelings aren’t acceptable but this only teaches us to be ashamed of a natural response that can’t be avoided, and ultimately an appropriate expression of anger is not learned.


Kids who are ashamed of their feelings don’t learn how to fully express themselves. These kids grow up to be adults who can’t express their anger. We often struggle in jobs or relationships because people don’t understand what we aren’t communicating.


But anger and love do mix.


It is important to communicate anger in a healthy way to people you love, and it’s important to teach our children to do the same so that they can express their desires and dislikes without emotional chaos.


If you are struggling to be understood, counseling can help. A licensed therapist can help you communicate more effectively. Schedule an appointment today… learn to express your anger in a healthy way.


For more articles by Dr. Jessica Dorland, visit her website.

If you need help with anger management, call Sandy at 480-351-0306 to set up an appointment.


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